Is there an AI that can help me write a eulogy without making it sound fake?

The kinds of AI people use for a eulogy, honestly compared

Three kinds of tool come up when people ask an assistant for help with a eulogy. They differ more in how they ask for your memories than in how they write.

General chat assistants: ChatGPT, Claude and Gemini. You describe the person, ask for a eulogy and then talk it into shape: shorter, warmer, less formal, add the story about the truck. They are flexible and good at revision through conversation. They do not know the person, and if your notes are thin they tend to fill the space with general lines about a life well lived, or with a hobby nobody mentioned. You have to set the length and the tone yourself and catch the invented details.

Guided eulogy writers. Trustworthy's eulogy writer, read on 15 Oct 2026, walks you through questions about your loved one, lets you skip any of them and upload extra details or documents, and lets you copy, email or print the result; its page says it costs nothing and that you should review the output for errors. Pure Cremation's “Lost for Words” tool in the UK asks a short series of gentle questions and returns a first draft to edit; its page says there is no charge and no sign-up, and calls the result a starting point rather than a finished script. These suit people who freeze at a blank page, because the questions do the remembering with you.

HidenGPT is a writing tool with a Speech format among 17 formats. It is not built only for eulogies, and it does not interview you. It is closer to the chat assistants, with the eulogy rules set in advance; the next section says what that changes.

Where HidenGPT works differently

Four things are set before you type a word.

Length in minutes. You choose 1 to 15 minutes and the draft is planned at 130 spoken words a minute in English, so three minutes means about 390 words. If the result lands more than 30% off, you are told. A chat assistant asked for “a short eulogy” may give you 250 words or 900.

No invented memories. The format is told not to invent anecdotes, names or events. Where it needs a memory you did not give, it writes [add a short memory] so the gap is visible, rather than a smooth sentence that is not true.

A red pen pass. After drafting, a light edit removes stock phrases such as “a testament to” and “serves as a reminder”, the kind of line that makes a eulogy sound like it came from a template. Some lines still need your judgment: “he lit up every room” is not on the list, and you should cut it.

Your own voice. On Pro or Pro Max you can save a voice built from two to five pieces of your own writing, at least 300 characters, so the wording leans toward how you talk. Old letters, emails or long messages work well.

What it does not do: ask you questions about the person, know anything you have not told it, or decide what is right to say about a family. Those stay with you.

Before and after: what makes an AI eulogy sound real

The difference between a eulogy that sounds generated and one that sounds like a person is almost always the notes, not the tool.

Notes: “My uncle Ray was kind, hardworking and loved his family.”

Any AI, from those notes: “Ray was a kind and hardworking man whose love for his family touched everyone he met.” Smooth, empty and true of thousands of people.

Notes: “Shop teacher 33 years. Fixed lawnmowers by ear. Called everyone chief. Built my first bookshelf with me when I was eight and let me hammer every nail crooked.”

A draft from those notes: “Uncle Ray taught shop for 33 years, and he could tell you what was wrong with a lawnmower before you got it out of the car. When I was eight, he built a bookshelf with me. He let me hammer every nail. Every one went in crooked. He said, ‘Good work, chief,’ and that bookshelf is still in my apartment.”

The second version needed no clever writing. It needed four facts and a phrase. Whatever tool you use, spend most of your time on the notes.

Using AI for a eulogy honestly

Many people wonder whether it is wrong to use AI for something this personal. A reasonable answer: it is not wrong to get help with the words, any more than it is wrong to ask a friend who writes well. It becomes wrong when the eulogy says things that did not happen, or when the memories are not yours.

A short checklist before you stand up:

Every story in it happened, and you know who was there. Every name, year and place has been checked by someone in the family. There is at least one sentence only you could have written. You have read it aloud and changed any word you would not use. Nothing in it was put there to impress the room.

If all five are true, the eulogy is yours, whoever helped with the drafting.